Have you ever found yourself in a place or situation where everyone around you seems happy—yet deep down, you know you’re not?
I’ve been there more than once. And for a long time, I assumed that meant I was the problem. How could I not be, when everyone else seemed content?
But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized something important: if a place or situation doesn’t serve you, it doesn’t matter how well it works for everyone else. It’s okay to admit that something isn’t right for you—even if it seems to be working perfectly for others.
That doesn’t make you the problem. It simply means you need to move on and find what does work for you.
I spent far too much time trying to change myself to fit into spaces that were never meant for me. And sometimes, those spaces did fit—at least for a while. But over time, as I grew and changed, I started to notice things I was no longer willing to overlook. What once felt acceptable no longer aligned.
That’s not failure. That’s growth.
I know some people will say that if you repeatedly find yourself in situations that don’t work, then maybe you’re the common denominator. But that’s not what I’m talking about here.
I’m not talking about conflict or struggling to get along with others.
I’m talking about that quiet voice inside you—the one that tells you something just isn’t right.
And learning to trust that voice might be one of the most important things you ever do.
Because sometimes the shift isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about paying attention to what truly fuels you… and being brave enough to follow it, even before you fully understand where it’s leading.
Coach Kareen 